Learning to Transition

It has been a couple weeks since the last update and a number of things have changed.

Such as?

Well, Ramone has yet to go to the vet for his last round of updates and micro-chipping. The vet called me as I was literally walking out the door to take him in and found more (read: complicated) info about shipping a pet over to England. Long story short, there’s more work to be done and sorting it out is going to take a little more time. I will do his micro-chip this week but may have to wait with a few other details…

Also, the transition between leaving my home, selling my belongings, and temporarily sleeping on an air mattress at my best friend’s house (which I am forever grateful for) has taken a toll on me emotionally. It has also required a bit more of an adjustment than I had originally “planned” for. I figured the big adjustment would come when I went to step on the plane and leave Minnesota, I never really thought about the interim of me leaving my home and being in between homes for a short period of time. Through talks with Si, Sarah (my best friend), and my mom I’ve learned that I have to let some things go emotionally, focus on the end goal, and embrace this entire process, even the stress and uncertainty. Not an easy task when I’m one of those people who typically focuses on every step before her rather than the end result. I liken it to those people who purchase fixer uppers, flip them, and turn them around for profit. Most of them can see the end result before it’s actually completed, they can see with their minds eye how the property will look when finished and ready to sell. Me? Not so much. I tend to focus on every single thing that needs to be done before I can celebrate and look forward to the conclusion. It’s a bummer that I’m programmed that way but after 30-some years, I’d say that way of thinking is going to stick around a bit longer and it’s a part of me that I must learn to embrace and find new solutions for.

The really beautiful gift in going through this unforeseen adjustment is that rather than going from my home of four years directly over to England to be with Si, I was able to have this transition period whilst still surrounded by friends and family. That’s a huge blessing and one that I’ll forever be grateful for because I think it really has changed me for the better and allowed me to learn a little more about myself, inner perspective if you will.

It’s amazing to me what you can learn from life experiences, big and small. Through all of this I have learned that I am a near-sided thinker; I tend to only focus on the steps directly in front of me rather than see the end result that comes from completing all of that hard work. Something I definitely want to change because I think that’s a major key to enjoying more of life; when you are able to visualize what all of the hard work can lead to, where it can bring you, both emotionally and physically, and how it can affect others around you.

Something else that has changed; the Fiancée Visa application has been submitted. FINALLY! We submitted it online at the end of March however the paper application (plus exact copies) needed to be submitted along with all of the supporting documentation including the biometrics stamped certificate via FedEx and I completed that daunting task just this last Friday. And guess what?! I tracked the FedEx package this morning and it had already been delivered and signed for in Sheffield at the Visa processing & immigration center. It is now officially and literally IN their hands. Woot! I must say, the good people at FedEx did an amazing job helping me through everything on Friday, making sure I had paid correctly, boxed, labeled, and shipped everything correctly; they were awesome and I will definitely use them again if required.

So that’s it. Now we wait for an answer and think all kinds of positive thoughts. Thoughts such as, ‘Mr. / Mrs. Immigration Person will LOVE the prospect of having another American in their country and they will LOVE the idea of Si and Jeana being able to be together’.

Or perhaps more along the lines of, ‘Mr. / Mrs. Immigration Person will fall in LOVE with Si and Jeana’s story and be so moved to tears that they will not only stamp “approved” on the application but they will fly over to Minnesota and hand deliver the good news in person’.

Or if that is a little outside the realm of possibilities, maybe something more like, ‘Mr. / Mrs. Immigration person will flip through the pages, feel as though there’s too much paperwork to deal with, assume the American and her fiancé must have all the required documentation in the file, and stamp approved because the pair wanting to be together are too damned annoying to deal with’.

Any of those positive thought scenarios would be appreciated…

2 thoughts on “Learning to Transition

  1. “I’ve learned that I have to let some things go emotionally, focus on the end goal, and embrace this entire process, even the stress and uncertainty”

    Just out of curiosity, have you given yourself permission to stomp your feet and yell at the universe and shake your fist at the frustration? I’ve read a lot of working on being zen with the process, but it’s ok to blow off some steam every once in a while. Especially constructive steam.


    1. Oh yes, I’ve definitely stomped, yelled, and shaken. Problem with letting off some steam every once in a while is that it’s easier to do that than it is trying to remain calm. I’m just trying to find the right balance between the two.


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